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moosegal

Title says it all. U/S today showed the heart stopped over the weekend I told my DR I wanted to go ahead with a D&C this Friday, but now I'm scared of potential scarring or other complications. Does anyone have any advice or other info to share? I'm going to call her again tomorrow to talk things through again.

JennOH85

The D&C process itself is physically not bad. The only complication I had was that there was "retained tissue" (I hate that that's the term! ugh!) so I had to go back for a second D&C about three weeks later. However, my experience is not normal. For most women, there are few to no complications from the procedure as it's only minimally invasive.  

If you have any questions at all, I would absolutely encourage you to call your Dr. to talk it over. Looking back on it, I wish I'd asked way more questions in the beginning. I'm sorry for your loss and wish you the best with whatever you decide to do.

dmgalley25

i am so sorry for your loss. My d&c was today. I was scared but so far so good. I got there at 615 and was out by 930. I have some cramping but no bleeding. I am not sure what the next week will be like but i can tell you that the last week waiting to go on my own was hell. I was so sad and all consumed. I didn't want to "see it" and i was so crippled by knowing he was still there but gone. Today I actually feel better mentally. I feel like i can start to heal emotionally.  It was the right decision for me. Whatever you decide i wish you peace and healing.

BravoBravo

I went with the d&c because the dr said it looked like I had a lot of tissue and might hemorrhage if I m/c'ed on my own.  And it was better for me to be able to plan care for my DS since my husband is deployed.  My mom flew in and stayed with us for two weeks.  I need to have a second d&c and subsequent 3rd d&c with ultrasound guidance since they kept missing the tissue.  

All three times the recovery has been easy.  I do feel weak this time but it is because I lost so much blood before going to the ER for the last d&c.

MWoodside

I'm sorry for your loss.

I had a D&C.  Most D&Cs these days are suction D&C so the chance of scarring is really minimal (like 1%).  My procedure was physically very quick & easy.  I had no complications.  I am glad I chose a D&C b/c it could have been a long wait for me to miscarry naturally since my body wasn't recognizing that the baby died.

Whatever you chose I hope it goes as well as can be expected and you can begin to heal emotionally.

heather4hawks

I don't have any info to add but I wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss. Hope that the procedure goes well and you are back to normal in at timely manner.

zzyyxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I waited to miscarry naturally for two and half weeks after learning that the pregnancy was not viable. Things were not progressing, so I finally decided to have a Manual Vacuum Aspiration yesterday. I was presented with three options, mistoprostol, the manual vacuum aspiration or the full D&C. I opted for the manual vacuum aspiration because there is some info that indicates it can be easier on the body than the full D&C.  Although, I was assured by all the many professionals that I spoke with that both the MVA and D&C are relatively low risk. It is a scary and difficult decision and there is no right or wrong, just what feels right for you. Talk to your doctor about all your decisions and make an informed decision. Best of luck.